Attributes: Part 2

Part 2 of the Attribute section names some of the traits a gentleman must master. These aren't easy, so don't just assume that you can get up and have them. Like any trait, you need to learn it and then level it up. (Hint hint nudge nudge, gamers.) But don't be afraid to go for it -- pull together your courage and make it happen. I'm reminded of a quote from a mushy movie I watched once: "All it takes is twenty seconds of crazy, unbelievable courage." Make something new happen today. Twenty seconds could change your life.

So, traits of a gentleman -- this section has sat on my computer for several days as I contemplated how to write it. But here's what I decided, and if you want more fact than opinion, then go ahead and skip this part. These are some of the traits that I look for in a gentleman, and I think that some other girls do, too... especially in the gaming realm.

Ready?
Here we go.

Thoughtfulness is a huge one. I know, I know, thoughtfulness isn't manly. You know what else isn't thought of as manly? Ballroom dancing. You'd be surprised how many dates it gets you.

Thoughtfulness isn't something that girls would put down on a list of things they like in a guy, but it's one of the biggest turn-ons ever. Remember the age-old "turning up on the doorstep with flowers in hand" for a date? It's not because we like flowers. We don't want chocolate for the sake of Valentine's Day. We want you to remember that we're pretty, and be able to tell us so without sounding like a suck-up. The more compliments used during a date equals amount of points out of favor after around... ten. So, in an equation, this reads:

If c=compliments, and p=points, then:
c > 10 = -(p)

Just something to keep in mind.

There are two other traits that are subs under thoughtfulness, too. These are patience and gentleness. It's not very often you meet a gentle guy. This is another one of those "unmanly" things -- are you noticing a trend? Maybe the guys that stand out are the ones that girls will go for, the ones that are gentle instead of bros, thoughtful instead of hard-headed, and meaningful with compliments instead of sounding like a sleaze.

Patience makes you stand out as an individual. Here in the U.S., especially, there's a problem with running life too quickly. Your worth is measured as how many things you get done in a day, and that shouldn't be the way gentlemanship is approached. That's what makes it so special. That's why gentlemen and gentlewomen stand out -- because they're not rushed. They're kind. They're patient. They're gentle, and thoughtful. They're like awesome presents wrapped up in shiny paper with sparkly bows. They're eye-catching and day-making. And you can be, too.

Go for it. Make someone's day.
It'll make you a happier you.